How Ignorant, taking a second look at your childhood
Am I a stay at home mom, or am I a work from home mom? Do I have a career, or is parenting my primary focus? I don’t know. Or, better yet, the answer is a fluid one that changes from week to week.
What I know for sure is that being home with my daughter has allowed me time to reflect. My mom was a homemaker for several years. Other years, she ran an in-home day care. Nowadays, she takes care of the elderly and disabled. She is a kind, giving person. If asked, her accomplishment in life was raising children to the best of her ability.
During my teenage and college years, I couldn’t relate to my mom’s life choices. I often wondered why she didn’t have a “career job.” I judged her for staying home. I thought of the ease in life I was denied, because I didn’t come from a two income household.
Oh, how ignorant I was to so easily judge my mom.
Fast forward a decade and I am my mom. I have become more family orientated. I have become more domestic. I embrace inner beauty and natural beauty more than ever. I consciously try to grow into a more considerate and responsible person. I don’t wear makeup regularly. I enjoy the challenge of looking myself in the mirror each day and finding things to love. I shop at local farms and prefer home cooked meals. And, lastly, I enjoy walking and spending time outdoors. All this I learned from my mother, forgot over time, and then rediscovered as an adult.
Today, I am appreciative of the sacrifices my parents made to have one parent work and the other stay home.
What do you think?
Which of your personality traits come from your mom?
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2 thoughts on “How Ignorant, taking a second look at my childhood”
Love how concisely you wrote all those complicated feelings in life. I learned a long time ago from a wise person that “You never know how anyone feels until you walk in their shoes”. So true. I was a latch key child and that affected me to pursue a Freelance Career when I had a baby, I was able to raise my son, as you know and be there for him. If you place my Freelance Career and Gregg on a priority scale, Gregg wins every time ❤
Hi Randi, Thank you for sharing!
To be honest, I resisted my new way of life at first. I wanted to do it all: sleep in, stay up, play with baby and cuddle, write daily, breastfeed, keep up with my looks and hobbies. I confused being home all day with raising a baby. The two are very different. The former suggests you have time, and the latter means you do not. I’ve finally accepted and embraced my new schedule. A pattern has emerged and I can see my opportunities. The moment I admitted that I could not do it all. I became much happier.